September 18, 2009

False Evidence Appearing Real

I recently brought a bring of mine to try out rock climbing. She was very eager to try it out when she hear of the idea. However, little did she anticipate the heights she had to climb. In her first climb she could only do half way.

She was just too afraid to go further. The good thing she then did was to clarify how the belaying works, what happens if she misses a holder and falls. I also thought her a few moves that would help her.

When she attempted it again... she made it!

You should have seen her face! The great sense of accomplishment of being able to conquer it!

Leadership activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

There seems to be a lot of discussion about fear. Believe it or not, all of us are actually learning to cope with it. There are many people I know who cannot progress in their career just because they fear being a leader. There are also many people who fear having a lot of money!

Nevertheless, fear really means... False, Evidence, Appearing, Real! Sometimes, the only thing one has to do is to talk about it and get better clarification of what to expect. That would give us enough confidence to face it and to manage it.

September 2, 2009

Slow Down and Observe

In my last post, I talked about my coach traversing on the bouldering wall effortlessly. I then took it as a project to repeatedly do that route. This time, rather than focusing on completely the route. I focused on my moves. I wanted to ensure that I would use the best possible move that would be most efficient.

So, I slowed down and observe every single move I made. When I did that, I was able to learn a lot of techniques and I was able to complete the route effortlessly too!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

How many times have you heard this "Success is all about the journey and not the destination!" Well, it is true. We often rush to reach the destination. However, sometimes we ought to slow down and observe what is happening. Not only do we have to observe it, we then have to understand it too. This will bring a lot of enlightenment to attaining your success.

August 27, 2009

Efficiency and Effectiveness Ensures Stamina for the Long Journey Ahead

My coach gave me this new traversing route to do. I managed to do. However, I was totally exhausted after the climb. Then when he did the route, he did it so gracefully and effortlessly. I was studying his moves. I realized that whilst I was attempting to complete the route focusing on moving my hands. I didn't not pay a lot attention to my footing. All I did was to make sure that I was balanced.

However, my coach ensured that his footing was firm and that he constantly could put his entire weight on the foot rather than the arms. This is a much more efficient and effective way to climb.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

We may be able to complete a lot of things. However, are we doing it the most efficient and effective way. Sure we are not aiming to be professionals, however, success do require us to have lots of stamina to withstand the long journey ahead.

August 17, 2009

Your Greatest Lesson is When You Teach

The other day, there was a fellow climber who was attempting to do a route. I noticed she was struggling to pass a particular section, I offered my advice to her. As there were other more senior climbers there, honestly, I was not confident if the advice I offered was right.

Well turned out what I did was ok and I also learnt a few other techniques. I also realized the technique that I was using may not be the best as it requires more strength but it suited the type of climber I am.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

We often prefer to be given our lessons. However, sometimes the greatest lessons comes when you are coaching or teaching someone else. The person that learns the most is actually the coach rather than the student.

You don't have to be an expert to start offering your advice, in fact, you should offer your advice today and be really prepared to learn!

August 10, 2009

Work On Your Strength Not Your Weakness

Most people attempting to climb for the first time inevitably says that climbing is very tiring and that you need a lot of upper body strength.

Nevertheless, a trained climber can usually do at least 3 times more routes than a beginner and yet not feel as tired as a beginner. Nope... it is not the fitness level of the person. I have seen people who work out vigorously in gyms suffering from the same challenge too.

Why?

It is all about using your strengths better.

The beginner usually uses the their arms to pull themselves up in the climb. Whilst a trained climber would use their legs to push themselves up.

Naturally the later is more effective as the legs has much stronger muscles and the arms are only used to support and balance.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Most of us are brought up in an environment where we are told to build on the weaknesses we have to make us succeed. However, how much improve can you really get doing that? In fact, what one has to really do is just focus on their strength and build on that strength. You will find that the incremental improvement is significant better that will create massive success for you.

If you are good with dealing with people, your career should allow majority of your time being spent there! If you are good with analysis, your career should allow you to spend majority of your time there. You will find that you excel.

Hence, are you spending majority of your time on your area of strength?

August 4, 2009

The Journey Is About You And Not A Competition

Often times we tend to compare ourselves to others. I would look at how good others are climbing and compare them with myself. Sometimes I feel I am not good when I see some beginners tend to climb really well. This competitive streak makes me frustrated.

Nevertheless, what I initially didn't understand is that person has better strength or better stamina. They may be smarter or they have less fear.

All this makes each of our journey to the top different and it is really our own journey that matters!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Quite often we compare ourselves with others, the cars people have, the job people has etc. Sometimes we rationalize why we don't have it. Sometimes we get angry and frustrated not having it.

Ultimately, don't forget that our journey in life is to thrive to the top! And that this journey is different for each of us. It is not a competition rather it is our thrive for the growth in us that makes a difference.

July 27, 2009

Say Yes!

Recently I injured myself a little bit and had to rest from climbing for about 10 days. Not being able to climb was the most difficult thing to do.

Looking back to the point when I just got started, I had reservations if I would actually take it seriously. I did not even invest in my own climbing gears, in case I dropped out. But I guess you never know until you've tried it and given it a chance.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Although we often plan for our success, and decide what opportunities to take and decisions to make. You must remember that the journey may not be what you have in mind. The universe has different principles that it works by.

You just have to give everything a chance. If you say yes to things that comes along, you would be surprised of the magic that will occur. Who knows, one year down the road, you will be sipping pineapple juice on a beach in Hawaii!

July 20, 2009

Albert Einstein says...

"I have no talents. I am only passionately curious."
Success Quotes: Start your day right... take a breath of inspiration!

July 13, 2009

Doing It Once Is Never Enough

After completing a route once, one may think that they have already succeeded and completed that route. However, often times when I attempt to do it the second and third time, I may still not be able to complete it smoothly.

As my coach says, you can only say that you have mastered that route if you can do it three times successively without any failures.

So, I learnt that I need to be able to master every step of the way and remember the skills I have learnt to complete that too.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

I realized there are many people who got success by chance (not that I believe luck has anything to do with our success). Unfortunately, that fame doesn't last, as they quickly loose it too. Besides that, they are often haunted by the insecurity of loosing that success too.

Be a confidence leader and master the skills necessary to build success over and over again. Master these skills to help people succeed too!

July 6, 2009

The Fear Never Goes Away Be Aware Of It

As my climbing improves, I am moving on to new routes, some of them tougher and higher grades. One must think that I am brave and I do not have fear climbing especially when I am getting better.

The funny thing is that the fear actually grows as I take on more challenges in climbing. The fear sometimes overwhelms that I even decide not to proceed with a climb.

I realised that this fear does not really go away, I just have to face it. And when I do, the results are amazing, I have a beautiful climb! Plus lots of satisfaction of reaching the top!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

As you have been following this blog, I am sure you realized how I often talked about fear. Think about it, what happens to your life if you just decided to ignore fear and do what your heart tells you. Wouldn't your outcomes be significantly different?

The funny thing is that a lot of people just try to suppress this fear in order to create the necessary actions. However, you should know by now, that fear never really goes away. In fact it probably builds up over time resulting in lack of results.

On the other hand, success is about just being aware of that fear and just learning how to cope with it the best possible way we know to achieve the results we want.

What is your greatest fear stopping you from massive results? Lets decide to just face it one more day, and one more day as you know the massive success you will reap tomorrow!

June 29, 2009

Don't Listen To That Nasty Voice

I was attempting a new route. Two thirds on the way up, I was holding on a bit to figure how to continue and was getting a bit tired. I didn't have much confidence in completing it. I had this voice creeping up "just let go and try again later when you have regained more energy to complete it".

You know that voice, don't you?

Well, with the encouragement of my fellow climbers, I hold on and continued my climb. It was scary as I didn't have much energy to hold on, yet I was still climbing. To my very surprise, I managed to complete it! It was the most victorious feeling!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

All of us are victims of this little voice inside us, it creeps up on us, telling us we can't do this, we shouldn't do this... etc.

There is also another voice that encourages us. Sometimes the nasty voice dominates and we seem to agree with it. Kind of like Smeagal in Lord of the Rings.

Our role in achieving success is to learn to listen to that encouraging voice and to shut off the pessimism of the nasty voice.

Try listening to only that encouraging voice for the next 30 days. See what happens!

June 24, 2009

Know Your Challenges and Study How You Should React

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There is this route in my lead climb which I made several attempts but failed to complete and had to take falls. As I experienced more of the fall my fear was starting to build up which didn't help my further attempts. So, I sat down and analyzed the route learnt where were my challenges which boiled down to 3 major areas. Firstly, I need to identify where I can rest during the climb to regain my energy for the rest of the climb. During these rest, I need to ensure that I rest completely.

Secondly, I was not clipping the rope fast enough. This resulted in me using up more of my energy than necessary.

Third but not least, I identified portions of the route where I struggled. I memorized the moments that I need to make during that time. This allowed me to pass through that fast without pausing to think which helps elevate my fear.

Having analyzed the climb, it not only allowed me to complete the route but very important is that I had my fear under control!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

It is like the business, do we really dedicate enough time to understand our challenges and decide how we need to react? Many people can identify their challenges but they don't understand it. Most importantly they do not decide on what is the best way to react that will result in a favorable outcome. Challenges are inevitable. However, repeating that challenge all the time is stupidity! Clearly decide how you are going to react to your challenges today.

June 19, 2009

Overcome the Fear of Failing

Recently, I learnt to lead climb. Lead climbing is tougher as it requires more stamina and strength. Most importantly, there is greater risk of fall and the fall distance is usually greater. Nonetheless, I was not too concerned about it.

As part of the training, my coach intentionally let me take that fall when I slipped. The distance that I fell was quite significant and only then I felt the fear of falling. I realized that was important as part of the training not only in preparation for me in case of a fall but also have a calm mind when climbing since I had faced the fall previously.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Most people plan for best things to happen on their road to success. Nevertheless, they do not plan and anticipate for challenges ahead. It doesn't mean that we want bad things to happen, by planning and anticipating details, it feeds greater confidence for your journey.

Admit that challenges are inevitable and it is our readiness to fight them that truly makes us a hero!

June 2, 2009

Don't Hold So Tightly to What You Have

As I was upgrading my climbing skills, my hand holds on the routes are smaller and I realized that my arms was getting really tired faster than usual. I though I was not climbing correctly and was using my footing wrongly.

I consulted my trainer, he said "don't hold on the holders too tight!"

Turns out, I was afraid and was holding on tighter to each holder. But I didn't realise that was consuming energy! I could barely complete my climb at times!

Leadership Activities: Dont' believe me... Feel it!

Have you reached the top?

Then why hold on so tightly to what you have as it is not permanent! For example, I met many people who wants to improve their lives and start their own business. But they are not willing to make a calculated risk to invest with the money they have. So, how can anyone expect things to change?

What do you need to let go today for the promise of the brighter future?

May 28, 2009

Rest at the Right Time

I realized one of the reasons I sometimes couldn't complete my route was because I didn't learn to take rest at the right time during the climb. I would climb until I was tired then rest and desperately try to hold on long enough (at awkward positions) before climbing again. Often, since the positions are not meant for resting, the longer I rested there, the more tired I was to climb and I would just drop off!

On the other hand, I learnt that before I climbed, I should study the route and designate a few possible resting spots. Upon arriving at those spots, I would gather enough energy to carry on the rest of the route. It is extremely effective!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

As I mentioned earlier, we need to map out our goals. These goals are necessary to also determine when we can afford to rest. I have seen many leaders nurture teams to a point where things begin to work then they decide to rest and return to find that the team has disintegrated. In fact, it was during this time that the team needs them the most!

Know when you can afford that break and celebrate it! Don't celebrate in advance you may come back and find you are where you started.

May 26, 2009

Creating Repeating Waves of Success with Momentum

Today, I had a really good lesson from my coach. He said that I needed more momentum in my climb. Innocently, I attempted it.

After that climb, he said "Momentum is not the same as speed. You need to learn how to use momentum to have better and effortless climb. It is not the same doing it in record time. You can be slow yet having lots of momentum to help you."

An example of how to use momentum to climb is to sway your body enough to get the momentum to catch a holder which is far. This in oppose to just being rigid and jumping for the holder.

He then gave me what seemed like a tough route. To my amazement, I ascended at a steady climb but with momentum, I managed to complete the climb victoriously!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

I am reminded how a lot people get started with a business idea enthusiastically and they try to put everything up quickly and it would eventually fail. On the other hand, we should really pace ourselves steadily. Learn what initiates our momentum best and repeat that every single time you need to make your next move. That one focused step every single time will create unbelievable outcomes!

May 25, 2009

Map Out Your Goals

When rock climbing in an indoor gym, each climb route is graded with color coded hand holds. Often times when a person starts new in rock climbing, we would do free climb (i.e. without following the color holds).

Though it may seem easier, there is often a lot of chaos during the climb as you would need to fumble on best holds when proceeding. It is often difficult to plan ahead your next moves. Hence, it not only slows you down but also tire you quicker.

On the other hand, a climb following a specific color coded route on the other hand can be challenging and requires you to learn specific techniques to complete, yet, the climb is often easier as you know what your next moves are already. This allows for a quick climb. One hold after another hold, before you know it, you are at the top already!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

People often shunt away from setting goals. Whether it is small goals or big goals it is going to get you to the top! By setting small goals it doesn't mean your journey is going to be easier. Hence, set goals which are reasonably challenging that requires personal growth.

Without goals, you are basically looking from the bottom of the wall forever figuring how to get to top without those hand holds. Impossible!

Turn the impossible to possible today, set your daily, monthly, yearly and long term goals that maps towards your financial success!

May 20, 2009

Having Strength for the Final Leap

After learning some techniques in climbing, I wanted to really understand how I make my moves as I climbed. Therefore, I would go slower.

Little did I know that in going too slow I actually impede my climbing growth.

Why?

When my coach realised that, he asked me to double up my climbing speed.

What I realised what that it was easier and that I was conserving more energy.

This energy is needed to overcome some areas where it required that extra boost of energy.

When I was climbing slow, I used up that reserve energy and by the time I need it, I was already worn out!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!!

I have met many people who get started in a business venture. They tell themselves that it is okay to go slowly and to get everything right. Little do they know that by doing so, they are actually not going anywhere!

They used up all their time and money resource that when the opportunity arises, they could no longer afford. Hence, lost everything that they were trying to make perfect!

It is okay to have an eye for details but don't be a perfectionist, just do what matters!

May 18, 2009

You Don't Have to do It All Over Again

Often times when I do not have a partner to belay me to climb, I would use the auto belayer. It is easy, you just clip on that 'safety rope' to your harness and the machine will protect you when you fall.

Recently, I had more opportunity to climb with my friends belaying me. Yes, it is sometimes inconvenient as you need to schedule time etc. However, there is an incredible advantage in climbing with a friend belaying.

With auto belaying a single mistake in your climb, means that you would have to start all over again at the bottom as the machine will lower you all the way down.
However, when a friend belays you, either you accidentally lost your hold or you are just tired, the belayer can hold you at that position until you are ready to climb again.

This allows me to continuing climbing from where I stopped and get familiarized with the route for another attempt! All this without wasting time and energy!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Are you climbing your success journey alone or is someone there to hold you when you fall? Having a person like a mentor supporting you may just mean you getting there in 3 times the speed and 3 times less agony!

There is no prize for repeatedly doing the same mistake, all people wants to see is if you reach the top! Don't do it alone!

Shifting Your Priorities

There are times when I was climbing I would get stuck. I could not let go my hands to move to higher holds as I felt I would immediately loose my balance and fall. Stuck in that position, attempting many time over again to move the hands higher, it just seems so impossible! To a point where, I would be drained off all my strength and eventually fall.

What I learnt today, was just by shifting my weight from one side to another e.g. left to right, I immediately gain strength and balance to move my hands higher! This minute movement seems to trivial yet pivotal!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Have you ever came to a point where you felt just stuck and not able to process further in your pursuit of success? It is sometimes an overwhelming feeling that drains every bit of our energy.

Often people hold on to past activities and not wanting to shift their priority. This could be just a temporary shift, yet a pivotal thing to do! In most cases, we only need to shift our priorities to make progress.

May 16, 2009

Finding Your Balance

One of the key in climbing successfully is for one to find balance. Of course, there are certain techniques one acquires to ensure this balance. For example, your footing needs to be diagonally from the hand holding.

Despite all the techniques you acquire, what is more important is that with persistent practice, you learn how to internalize and feel this balance for yourself. Every person is built differently and they need to learn how to compliment to that.

For some people, it is learning how to use more foot work. Whilst for others, it is learning how to use their arm strength. Yet some will need to learn how to use their planning skills. No one can tell you if you are right or wrong when you are up there.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

In our journey to success, we may fail many times. It is not a failure until you make it one! If you failed, try other methods to make it work. Don't just give up! Do it over and over again until you internalize how it best works for you. Discover your strength that will create this balance for you. Only when you have understood this for yourself, success happens automatically.

May 13, 2009

Excuses Stops You Here

Recently I had a minor shoulder sprain, I wasn't sure if it was a good idea to climb. As it was my training day, I was tempted to call my coach to postpone. There was this voice inside me the whole morning... to cancel or not?

Anyway, I decided to go for my climb anyway. Am I glad I did it! The shoulder pain did not bug me at all, and I was able to climb. In fact, I managed to do a tougher route. I was really proud of myself for climbing even though I had the excuse not to.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

We often give ourselves many excuses for not doing the things we supposed to do. You know you are supposed to do it but somehow, something happened and you can't do it! We have 101 excuses for not doing something.

Unfortunately, no one wants to know your excuses for not succeeding. They will only be interested in how you succeeded!

Excuses stops you here, action leads you to success!

May 12, 2009

Have a Role Model

A month ago, I went for my first outdoor climb. There was a route where I struggled to even get my big butt up!


Yesterday, I went for my second outdoor climb. I hesitated doing that route again. Nevertheless, when many of my fellow climbers seem to have completed it effortlessly and after prolonged contemplation, I said to myself I can probably do it too!


With that breath of inspiration, I stepped up to the cold hard wall and began my climb.


I was jumping for joy when I finally completed the route!


So why was I able to do it now?


Of course the trainings I did made me more skillful in completing it. Most importantly, I realised my greatest stumbling block the first time was that I had a lot of suppressed fear!


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Block by block my confidence was built when I was inspired by others. I mentally defeated the challenge first. I said with a brave heart "I want to be able to do that too!".


Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!


As you don't know the journey ahead, fear always has its way of crawling in. You need to adopt a winning mindset. Learn to build confidence through persistence and find a role model that you can shadow footsteps to succeed!


Do you have role models who inspires you to succeed?

May 7, 2009

Embracing Challenges

When belaying a climber, sometimes we have a climber who is slightly heavier than the belayer. For an inexperienced belayer, you may wonder if you are strong enough to belay and support.

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As the belayer lowers the climber, it is important to ensure that the climber is lowered in a controlled manner. As the climber is lowered down a certain momentum picks up and the belayer may be tempted to slow it down quickly and suddenly. However, when doing just that, the belayer is jerked up.

However, if the belayer just allows the climber to come down at its momentum, it is a smooth down.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

In every pursuit to success, there are bound to be challenges. Just like in climbing there is the up journey as well as the down journey.

Often people resist challenges and in resisting challenges it impacts us even more!

On the other hand, we should embrace challenges. Challenges are gifts and has valuable lessons. It makes us better and stronger.

So next time a challenge comes, enthusiastically say to yourself "oh good! What is it here to teach me!"

April 25, 2009

Get In The Zone

There are times when I would go climbing just to make sure I worked out for that day and rush off as I have other matters to attend to in my busy schedule.

However, there are times when I would go climbing totally focused on climbing. Its amazing as I not only have lots of fun, it also seem like time just stood still. Nothing else seem to matter.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Your success is not directly proportional to the amount of time you invest but rather, how focused you are when you are in that pursuit.

Leave everything aside and dedicate to your success today!

April 24, 2009

Success Does Not Happen By Accident

Recalling the first time I met my personal trainer, I was admiring how gracefully and effortlessly he climbs. Not only that, he had the physic most of us desire... perfectly toned muscular body with his washboard abdominal. I wanted to be like him... and I wanted it fast!

As he shared his experience, I then realized, the amount of effort attributed to making him who he is today. For example, he has already been climbing for the last 10 years and began climbing at a very young age. Besides that, he had a mentor to teach him and he had to go through back breaking training the whole day, everyday or years! No wonder he is one of the top climbers in the country.

For anyone to attain that level of competency, there is tremendous practice required.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

It is very easy to look at success and want it immediately. What people fail to understand is that success does not happen by accident. It requires lots of work and planning.

April 23, 2009

Exude Confidence As A Leader

belayingWhen you do rock climbing, it is essential to have a belayer. The belayer is the person that will pull the ropes as you climb so that if you fail, the rope will catch your fall.

The person who is belaying obviously have to know what he is doing and constantly keep his eye on the climber. A second of distraction can result in fatality.

Hence, the climber needs to have the confidence and faith on the belayer

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Being a leader, we need to be a good belayer. We need to exude that total care and focus to ensure that our team has total faith and confidence in doing what they are doing.

April 22, 2009

Mentoring

When I initially started rock climbing, I picked up a few techniques from observing people around me and through discussion with friends. Nonetheless, I felt my progress was rather slow.

Being introduced to one of the top climbers in the country, I managed to convince him to coach me.

That was the best decision I made, the first session with him made a world of difference to my climbing. He was able to identify little things that I can improve for a better climb.

In fact, I would say my climb improved 4 folds from just that 1 hour he spent with me!

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

My mentor once told me...

"Doing what you are doing today, will anything change?"

However, which areas do you need improvements?

"If you knew it, wouldn't it already reflect in your bank account?"

So who is mentoring you to success today?

April 21, 2009

Encouraging Persistence

I realised I was almost compulsively addicted to climbing a month or two into climbing. I would go climb almost everyday. I couldn't understand this dying persistence I had.

Later, I realised that it was because I would have this route that I intended to complete when I climb. However, when I don't get to complete it, on that day or I didn't do good completing it, I was determined to master it the next day.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

In our journey to success, we are bound to meet challenges. It is important to focus on the goal of completing the journey. Focusing on the goals will keep us persistently consistent to succeed.

April 19, 2009

Working Hard Versus Working Smart

When I initially got started in rock climbing. Though I was able to climb to the top, it was extremely tiring and my muscles would be sore for a long time.

Then I learnt some useful skills from my personal trainer. Not only was I able to get to the top tiredlessly, but I could do it a few times over.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

Just like our journey to success, you need the endurance to succeed. Working hard without acquiring the skills is not going to get you very far.

Do you spend enough time to master some skills to succeed?

April 17, 2009

Conquering Fear

It was really interesting for me as I spoke to a few avid climbers to realize that they have a fear of heights. Yet they are chose to conquer their fear by facing it.

Leadership Activities: Don't believe me... Feel it!

In pursuit of success, we often face fear. F.E.A.R. really means

  • False
  • Evidence
  • Appearing
  • Real!

Whilst some people choose to shy away from their fear. Have you decided to conquer fear by facing it head on?